You’re standing at the intersection of two generations.
You can’t seem to connect to your children…..
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Missing that daily closeness you used to experience
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Being forced to stand by while they struggle to fix things
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Giving advice only to have it brushed off
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Trying to figure out these weird new boundaries
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You’re no longer the center of their world, just an occasional sounding board
You’re feeling the sudden weight
of your parents’ dependence…..
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Managing their endless doctor appointments
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Handling their crises
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Watching them lose their independence
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Stepping up as their primary caregiver
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Balancing their heavy needs with yours
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Realizing you are now the one in charge
I see you.
You hide your bone-tired loneliness, persistent unease, and grief for your old self behind an effortless smile because it all crept up so slowly.
I want you to hear this:
The way you're relating to your children was built for when they were young. It worked then. It doesn't work now. And nobody's shown you what to do instead.
Somewhere between raising your children and caring for your parents, your marriage stopped getting your time or your energy. He's noticed too. You haven't said so out loud yet.
Showing up for your parents is costing you so much. Not because you're doing it wrong but because you're doing it alone, with no support and no boundaries and no one guiding you.
You knew how to do the child-raising stage. Now that's done, you're left wondering who you are without it.
If you’re living with even one of these challenges I’m here to help you.
Hi! I'm Beverly Chimes
I made Aliyah in 1996 from South Africa and together my husband and I have raised four children to adulthood here in Israel. I come from family, faith, uproarious laughter, fun novels, and good friends. I also come from loss, doubt, struggle, taking risks, and hard-won growth. As a daughter, mother, and grandmother, I deeply understand the changing dynamics as children become adults and parents age, leaving us struggling to adjust to the new demands. Prioritizing everyone else’s well-being can cause a whole host of bewildering challenges. For over two decades - drawing on my LCSW Social Work degree from Wits University in Johannesburg, my life coach certification, and my own training and experiences - I’ve been able to guide my clients through this challenging stage of life. My approach blends intellect and intuition, creating a safe, judgement-free space where I help my clients untangle complex situations, shift old patterns, and strengthen their most important relationships.
Testimonials
I highly recommend Beverly Chimes. She helped me figure out how to be a mother to my children now that they’re adults. I want to stay close to them, to still be someone they can turn to for love, support and guidance, but also to give them the space to be completely their own people. She guided me through maintaining that closeness while giving them room to grow, make their own choices, and become more and more who they are.
Beverly understands the complexity of relationships. She helped me navigate a very difficult relationship with my mother by learning how to set boundaries and take care of myself while still having compassion for her as she ages. And how to respond in ways that feel healthy without losing respect for myself and my Mom.
I’m very grateful for Beverly’s gentle guidance . She helped me find the courage to let go of self judgement and find more compassion for myself and my loved ones. I am happier, more fulfilled and more relaxed than I have ever been in my life.
Thank you Beverly for helping me understand what’s really going on, see things I couldn’t see on my own, and figuring out what changes to make that feel right for me.
What is Life Coaching?
Sessions with me provide a dedicated space where you can finally put down the heavy emotional weight you’ve been carrying alone.
I will guide you through untangling the competing demands of your life and help you understand how you got here.
Our work together will help you connect with your own voice, needs, and desires instead of living entirely on autopilot for everyone else.
We’ll replace outdated parenting and coping patterns with practical tools that fit your current reality.
My targeted support helps you catch your breath, set boundaries, and navigate shifting family dynamics without burning out - paving the way for deeply satisfying relationships and a truly enjoyable new chapter.
Book Your Free Online Consultation
Thank you for taking this brave step.
Stepping forward to put yourself first takes real courage, and I honor that.
This complimentary 45 minute video call isn’t a coaching session. It’s meant for us to get to know each other a little. You can share what you've been carrying and what you're hoping for and I'll walk you through my approach.
It’s a relaxed, heart-to-heart chat to see if working together feels like the right fit for both of us.
45 minutes
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